Dear Wife,

Remember the day when I shielded you from the heavy rains on our third date? You held me so close and you wouldn’t let go until it subsided.

That was the day I fell in love with you.

You may wonder how this minor detail became a core memory, leading to our marriage. It was one of the last times I felt like your hero.

Since then, things have been different, and I want that feeling back — instead, I feel like you’re falling out of love with me.

I haven’t felt loved by you for the past several years, and I couldn’t figure out why.

Then I happened to pick up the book For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. It’s a book about the inner lives of men, and there’s a section on respect that describes my feelings so clearly.

I haven’t felt your love because you lost respect for me.

You may wonder how, since we don’t really argue. Honestly, I’ve lost the will to argue because things never change.

Here are 5 things women don’t realize they do that make their husbands feel unloved:

1. They don’t respect his judgment

When I come up with ideas that I think will help us as a family, you always shoot them down. I know I make less money than you, so that may give you extra authority. But when you constantly shoot down my ideas, it makes me feel dumb.