A Nigerian lady, Tanko Lami, has recalled how church members slut-shamed her over her choice of dressing and accused her of trying to corrupt the minds of their children.
According to Lami, she was in a dark place mentally and psychologically hence needed a church that held the values of community and family with its members.
“Exactly one year today since I posted this picture and that makes it exactly one year since I stepped my feet into any church at all. Looking at this picture brings back memories of hurtful words I heard that day, I am just glad that it doesn’t hurt as much as it used to many months before now,” she wrote in a Facebook post on Tuesday, May 21.
I was in a bad place in life, mentally, in short, psychologically, I was at a dark place and all I needed was human love and acceptance. Not in any environment, because I could have gotten it with friends and business-work relationships.
I needed something different but couldn’t explain it, so I was learning again to go back to church after leaving for some years. But like I always say, I needed a church that holds the values of community and family with its members.
I found one. My local church. I started getting familiar and truly, it was like I found a home. It is still a home though.
But on this day, it was a special occasion, normal me that would wear big trousers and just tie wrapper on it because as an endowed lady, almost everything I wear in such an environment looks inappropriate. But after several complaints about how I don’t appear to church like a beautiful well to do lady that I am, I always appear homeless and tacky…I decided to spear some monies and get myself some dresses.
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My sister let me tell you something you see in life everything thing has way of doing it, you see organizations has rules and standard, even church has a way of doing things and what they accept to be their standard,thank you.