Nilgerian actress, Venita Akpofure has advised women to hold off on getting married until at least 28 as she talks about marriage.
She revealed this in a recent interview with Tacha on Cool FM.
She said.
“When you say don’t marry young, what’s your age for young? Because people of 42 still call themselves young?” Tacha asked.
In Venita’s view, the 20s are a prime time for exploration and self-discovery.
According to her, marriage put the brakes on that crucial journey. She believes experiencing different things and evolving as individuals is key before making such a big commitment.
Venita Akpofure also revealed that Marriage needs grown-up skills like handling tough times and understanding yourself.
The BBNaija All-stars housemate suggested the 20s might be too early for some to fully develop the skills needed for solving the complexities of married life.
Marriage, in Venita’s words, can sometimes feel like being “handcuffed” to another person.
This, she says, is especially true if you haven’t established a strong sense of independence and personal space beforehand.
“Do not marry young, I’m saying ideally — okay if my daughter came and approached me that she was ready to get married, if my daughter approaches me, as long as she’s not I swear to God, not up to 28, we can rock with it. Anything below 28, please no. Because you’re going to change your mind and you don’t know all of who you are at 20 something. Don’t get me wrong, there are people that are mature oh. But you need to try different things in life, different experiences, to be sure of okay, I want to be stuck here. Because it’s handcuff, you’re there.” She said.
Tacha asked; “Why are you using the word stuck?”
Venita replied: “Because you’re stuck – that’s the social idea. Unless you’re westernized like me, then you’re unstuck, you can unstuck yourself. I’m divorced. The ones that are enjoying now, they’ll probably still reach a time where they’ll probably hate each other and still have to be in the same space. I’m telling you! Why you think say them get madam room and oga room? When the ground is shaking and I need space, I need space. Be in your room, I’ll be in my room. In fact to me an ideal marriage, my husband would have a wonderful house here, and mine will be over here, and there will be magnificent corridors connecting the two houses.”
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8 Responses
Hmmmm, that’s right but this days everything has changed when you will see a 13years old girl with pregnant
Well being an institution where you need commitment one has to take their sweet time to make that choice to avoid the handcuffs feeling some people go through
It better to marry in the right than doing some crazy shit out there
It is better to marry in not the time when you done older before you go married
People marry young and still remains married for a long time, it depends on the mind maturity of the couple
But a 28 years old lady is no more a small child?
That your advice is not good,there is nothing wrong with a girl of 27or28 getting married,its not bad,a girl of 28 is old enough for marriage
It is better to marry late and remain marry till death, than marry young and later regret it.