A UK-based Nigerian nurse has criticized the notion of a man splitting bills with his wife.
In a post on her Twitter page, she argued in favour of the longstanding tradition of a man being the one to foot all the bills as the head of the family.
The nurse identified with the handle @proudnursemj noted that the concept of bill splitting is an issue that a man and a woman must discuss at the early stage of the relationship.
She further argued that a man who isn’t willing to take care of his family fully isn’t ready for marriage.
The nurse observed how African men were being changed by the culture abroad and added that a woman’s choice to support her family shouldn’t be mandatory but should depend on free will.
She wrote …
“This splitting bills is a very important discussion!!! It should come earlier in dating… I personally I’m 100% against any woman splitting bills with any man! I don’t care the percentage! It will never make sense to me… Yes it’s reasonable to support the family where necessary!
But splitting bills???? like giving me a percentage to cover is BS! & I’m 100% not doing that! If you’re not MAN enough to take care of a Family you have no business getting married! I’m not a feminist btw… so I believe in “Man is the head of the family”. Be a man! Period.
“Most African never liked the idea of splitting bills with their wife, they found it ridiculous, but small years abroad, they start copying other people’s culture. I’m not saying as a woman don’t support your home/partner…
I’m saying it should be optional not mandatory.. & most reasonable women will always support their partner… I’ve heard women from other culture love African men because they provide and don’t expect them to split bills… that doesn’t mean they don’t support the men.”
See post below…
This *splitting bills* is a very important discussion!!! It should come earlier in dating… I personally I’m 100% against any woman splitting bills with any man! I don’t care the percentage! It will never make sense to me…
Yes it’s reasonable to support the family where…
— ????????????????????????????™️ (@proudnursemj) September 19, 2023
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Actually sometimes women also have different perspective about a man some feel that for you to be man enough to get married you must have the ability to fit all the bills but some believes that all things work out well gradually it doesn’t matter if the man is hard working or not what matter most is what they believe in what they are entering
I wish that were true, from the days of our great grand mothers, I have not seen a woman include the name of her husband in her will. Generally women expects men to die first and when they break the news their friends start asking them what and what did he leave for them, hope she has secured documents and cheque books? They start devicing how to threaten the husband’s families not to dare ask for anything.